How can we parent our children who have experienced trauma? How can we discipline them in a way that will help them learn and grow? In this course, we interview Karen Doyle Buckwalter, a clinical social worker specializing in attachment and trauma, and author of Raising the Challenging Child: How to Minimize Meltdowns, Reduce Conflict, and Increase Cooperation.
This course covers the following topics:
Impact of Trauma
- What is trauma?
- Trauma vs PTSD
- How does trauma impact a child?
- Three levels of the brain and how children react from a primitive fear base if there is a history of abuse or neglect.
- Does the age of the child, when they experienced trauma or the type of trauma, affect the degree to which the child will be impacted?
- If a child is able to leave the abusive situation, it can lower the impact of PTSD.
- Impact of preverbal trauma- before the child has language and memory.
How to Best Parent a Child Who Has Experienced Trauma
- What is a typical behavior for a child who has experienced trauma?
- Internal working model formed with earliest caregivers that forms a template for future relationships with caregivers.
- Children are terrified of being forgotten.
- The children often “reject you before you can reject them.” This helps protect them from their core fear of rejection and is a primitive survival mechanism.
- Importance of awareness of one’s own vulnerabilities and insecurities that may be triggered by caring for children with history of trauma.
- How to help our kids heal and attach? Tips and Techniques.
How to Discipline a Child Who Has Experienced Trauma
- Connection before corrections.
- Build up your relationship account.
- Provide choices.
- Provide a balance of structure and nurture.
- The need for co-regulation with a safe adult rather than time out or other typical approaches.
- These things take time to change. What fires together in the brain wires together so just because the child is safe now does not remove these well-worn neuropathways.
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