Children understand adoption differently at different ages and stages of development. How do you talk with your kids about adoption? In this course, we talk with Mark Lacava, LCSW-R,  the Executive Vice President of the Pre and Post Adoption Services Department at Spence-Chapin Services to Families and Children about how parents can talk about adoption with their children.

The course covers the following topics:

  •  How does a child’s understanding of adoption differ by age?
    • Toddlers & Preschoolers
    • School Age
    • Tweens
    • Teens
    • Young Adults
  • How can you talk about adoption and the role of the birth father with young children who do not understand the concept of sex?
  • How does openness or lack of openness impact a child’s understanding of adoption?
  • How does transracial adoption impact a child’s understanding of adoption?
  • How to talk about adoption at different ages?
  • What are the important points you want to make sure your child understands at each stage?
  • What are some common questions children ask at different developmental stages?
  • What to say when you know very little about the birth parents?
  • How to handle the “You’re not my real mom or dad” statement?
  • How to handle hard birth parent stories? Should you tell a child that they were conceived by rape or that their birth mother is in jail or birth father suffers from addiction? At what age should you share this information?
  • Kids who show little or no interest in their adoption story.


*Your course will remain active for 180 days from purchase date.

This course aligns with the following regulatory requirements.

Hague Treaty on Intercountry Adoption

 96.38 (b)(10)